1. Stop Chasing and Start Living
Many people feel they need something – more money, new clothes, better relationships – to make them happy. They think: “If only I had that other thing, I would be complete”. Instead of enjoying life, they chase a vague idea of happiness.
If you look hard enough, you’ll always find reasons to be miserable.
So stop chasing; start living. Wanting more is fine, but don’t forget to relax and enjoy life for what it is – in the present.
2. Assume Responsibility
Instead of blaming others for what’s wrong in your life, focus on what you
can do to make things better. Never sulk and try not to feel sorry for
yourself too often. It’s your responsibility to make yourself happy:
nobody else’s.
3. Stop Seeking Stimulation
apart staying with your gadgets.. there is always something exciting...
Appreciate the sky you see on your way to work each day. Cherish each
moment you spend with the people you love. Enjoying every experience will give you many new reasons to
be happy.
4. Take Action
When you want to lose weight – start jogging. Someone’s being rude to
you? Tell them to stop. If you’re unhappy with your job, start looking
for a new one. Get behind the steering wheel of your own life!
5. Expect Nothing
We expect others to treat us better than we treat them. We work out a
few times and stress because we don’t instantly look like models. We
want to live like rockstars, ignoring the fact that only a few people
reach that level of success.
In short, we tend to have unreasonable expectations. The difference
between what we feel entitled to and what we actually get is the source
of much misery.
Accept life in its entirety; stop thinking in terms of what should be and accept what is.
When you live without entitlement, every good thing becomes a wonderful
surprise. Even better, expecting nothing means never being
disappointed.
6. Get down to business immediately
It’s common practice for people to socialize and make small talk .These distractions will cost you serious time. By becoming someone who gets to the point you’ll be more productive.
7. Meditate when required to stay relaxed and calm
The benefits are you will have better concentration,will be less bothered about things,better health and better understanding of inner self. you do not have to be a slave to your thoughts.Through meditation, you attain the power to control your thoughts, and on occasion stop them completely.Mind is mad monkey,so dont get discouraged if you are not able to attain a silent mind straightaway. It takes time and practice
8.Don’t Be Vain
It might be harsh, but alas true, that we often worry about what
people think of us. We worry endlessly that we might not meet society’s
expectations; we worry about whether people will like us. With this
mental outlook we start to give too much importance to our ego; it means
we are constantly looking for appreciation and the admiration of
others. If we don’t get this appreciation, we start to worry that we are
no good. If we can develop greater self confidence and inner poise,
then we will not worry about what others believe or think.
We need to give less importance to the opinions of the world. Even if
we get criticized, we should not worry because we should not identify
our self worth with the opinions of others. This is not easy to do
overnight, but, if we can detach ourselves from judgements of others we
will gain greater inner peace and avoid worrying over the relatively
insignificance of people’s judgements.
9. Simplify Your Life
Modern life, places great demands on our time. We can feel that we
never have enough time to fulfill all our tasks. However, we should seek
to minimise these outer demands. Take time to simplify your life; there
are many things that we can do without, quite often we add unnecessary
responsibilities to our schedule. Do the most significant tasks, one at
a time, and enjoy doing them. To experience inner peace, it is
essential to avoid cluttering our life with unnecessary activities and
worries.
10. Be immune to Flattery and Criticism
If we depend on the opinions and praise of other people, we can never
have inner peace. Criticism and flattery are two sides of the same coin.
They are both the judgements of others. However, we should not allow
ourselves to be affected by either. When we do, we feed the ego. We
should learn to have confidence in ourselves. This does not mean we will
love ourselves in an egotistical way, it means we value our real self
and have belief in the good qualities that are part of everyone.
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Let us not worry
About the future.
Let us only do the right thing
Today,
At this moment,
Here and Now.
Let the future take care of
Itself.
At time our own mind can be our worst enemy and very self critical. It is important not to lose a sense of balance; Negativity is often associated with boredom and lack of purpose. Stop
endlessly checking emails and surfing web, look for something good to
do.
“If you have inner peace,
nobody can force you to be a slave to the outer reality.”
